By admin on August 14, 2007

Site Upgrades that would affect Users:

1. Tally of total amount of people on the site- registrant PLUS number

of kids listed on posting.

2. Create and implement a ‘Medical Update’ Key, for each donor number.

A little icon next to the donor number where families could post, view

and update medical, genetic and updated donor profile information-

only viewable and editable by people posted to that particular donor.

3. Easier donor searching- by characteristics, partial donor numbers.

4. The ability to search for and through matches. What types of

matches and between who? i.e how many matches in each state? How many

matches between ‘only’ children? How many matches in Denmark?

5. Easier access to editing posts. All editing tabs should be

together. Should be an ‘Edit’ tab that’s visible.

6. Sperm bank rating system. Need to brainstorm on how to integrate

this into current system. Each bank rated with an icon on their

current page? New page on the DSR with all sperm banks ranked? Users

should be able to add notes to each sperm bank.

7. Average matches per donor?

8. People should be able to see the internal messages they have sent

to other members.

9. For unknown donor numbers: should have multiple choice fields (eye,

hair, college, city, etc) and search capabilities.

10. Pictures uploadable and viewable by matches only. (A maybe)

I am hoping that we can accomplish these items this Fall.

By admin on August 14, 2007

This letter is for all DSR members who have never paid the $40/year
membership fee, or have memberships that have expired.

Hi DSR Member,

Our records reflect that you have either been posted on the site for
a while, yet not ever supported the site by becoming a paying member
or that your once paid membership has expired. I’d like to invite you,
at this time, to become a supporting member of the DSR so that we can
continue to grow and provide this service to you as well as for the
many donor families that are joining and matching each month. This is
a huge undertaking for just one person. The fee was $25 for the first
nine months that I started charging (8/05-3/06), and then because of
the influx, I had to raise it. For the first 5 years I supported this
site with my own money- but it became apparent that without the help
of the members, there would be no DSR.

About half of the members joined before 8/1/05, so they are posted,
and have never paid a fee. Many people just pay once, then don’t pay
again until they get a match. So the amount of money coming in isn’t
what it may appear to be. They, like you, just don’t understand what a
huge undertaking this is.

Some of the expenses that the membership income helps to cover:
Operating and maintaining our complicated website/database, including
the services of a database specialist to keep the site up, running and

All duties of a non profit director of a worldwide organization,
including: doing (or hiring outside help for): all public relations,
media relations and interviews, industry relations, graphic design,
business management, accounting, grant writing, article writing,
educational materials writing, daily site maintenance, uploading and
troubleshooting, business to business relations, dealing with
researchers, speaking engagements, counseling members, and running a
website on a day to day basis. We also have office supplies and
equipment, bank fees, repairs and maintenance, computer equipment,
software, attorney and accountant fees, printing, postage, travel,
rent, insurance, telephone and internet fees and web hosting.

If not for our site, most likely you would not have had the chance to
connect with your matching donor families (if you have matched) or
have the chance to be in the position to be found. So as not to
jeopardize your current posting on the DSR, please consider becoming a
supporting member at the $40/year membership fee.

Thanks so much,

By admin on July 25, 2007

As we at the Donor Sibling Registry are “redefining family” many of us will have the opportunity to include as new “family” members people who come from different socio-economic, geographic and political backgrounds. In addition, we may connect with others with different sexual orientations than our own.

I have recently heard from a member whose child was so excited to have found a half sibling on the DSR, only to hear from the match’s parent that a connection would not be made because of the first mother’s sexual orientation. This is not about defining connection/match success as getting along or having a multitude of things in common. (How many of our family members that we actually grew up with think/act/believe as we do?)It’s about honoring the curiosities and connections that the donor conceived yearn for. It’s about celebrating these connections.

For parents we need to be willing to examine our own fears, prejudices, preconceived notions and hesitations and then be willing to do what’s in the best interests of our children in spite of them. I see this all the time with the non-biological parent, both straight and gay, in the DI family. Many times these parents have hesitations and fears about their kids connecting to their donor families. Time after time, I see these folks rise above their own discomfort to do what they know is best for their kids.

Reaching out to donor families can be an opportunity to connect with people that you might not have otherwise. It can be an opportunity to widen and enrich your family circle.