“At the time I was involved in the donor program, I wanted anonymity. Since then, however, I’ve come to believe that the keeping of the secrete is profoundly wrong for many different reasons, not the least of which is the perverse “it’s just bodily fluid” argument. It most assuredly is not. Consequently, though I still respect deeply the right of privacy for parents and their donor offspring, and would not seek to pierce that veil even if the law allowed, I no longer think privacy is my claim to make.”
Many people get hung up on the idea (because it is perpetuated by the infertility industry) that donors are promised anonymity and have no desire to connect with offspring. While this may be true for some, we currently have more than 900 egg and sperm donors on our website who think differently. We have had many donor-offspring connections made on the DSR that have been simply amazing. Many donors come to the site saying “promised anonymity?….I had no idea I had the right to be curious, search and find my genetic offspring.”
This particular sperm donor was alerted to the DSR by his 16 year old daughter.