Fairfax Cryobank pointed me to this section of their policy to explain why they do not allow donors to know their own donor numbers:
“Donor Numbers
We stand by our policy of not releasing specific donor numbers to the donors themselves. We believe that if we were to allow donors to have their donor numbers, we would in essence be facilitating their ability to make contact with recipient families and their offspring. Providing donors their numbers would clearly undermine our privacy policy and could possibly cause families and donors, unaware of the outcomes of sharing identifying information publicly, permanent and unwelcome consequences.”
Again, thy are clearly prohibiting mutual consent contact amongst families who desire to be in contact with each other. They are clearly prohibiting the sharing and updating of important medical and genetic information.
In my opinion: Unfathomable, unethical and irresponsible.