By admin on February 13, 2013

A new page on the Donor Sibling Registry for and about Donor Offspring

Some DSR Success Stories:
“Today I found my younger half brother and am absolutely thrilled! I contacted his mother and hopefully we can start a correspondence and maybe even a relationship. I am so happy that DSR has enabled me to find my ‘other’ family! I was brought to tears when I saw my donor’s ID on this boy’s post and I am so excited that I finally found him! Thank you so much DSR!”

“‘I am an only child with five siblings’ is what I said to my mom when in March 2006, I was informed that I have five biological brothers and sisters. I was eleven years old and hearing that fact blew my mind. How do I have brothers and sisters? Why wasn’t I told about them until now? Who are they? Where are they? All these questions raced through my mind as my mom was telling me the details.”

“I am 13 years old and in 8th grade. My name is Lauren and I am also a twin. I found out about a month ago now that my dad wasn’t my real biological dad. I was shocked at first but then the next day I was excited to tell my friends the news and curious about the donor and what he looked like. I know that my dad is my real dad and will always be, but I still wanted to do some research about the donor. That night I sat on the couch with my family and we all went through the packet about the donor. (heritage, looks, health…etc.)” Continue reading Lauren’s story: I am 13 and just found out.

“When I signed up with the DSR a year ago, I did it more with the hopes of finding information about my donor, than with any thoughts of actually finding a sibling. After all, I’d be conceived in the late sixties, well before the existence of sperm banks with registered donors. At that time everything was very secretive, with absolutely no information given to the parents. When I got to the DSR, I was the first person to create a listing under my mom’s doctor’s name, from New York City.” Continue reading this amazing story of older half siblings connecting: Never too old to find a match!

From our Research on Donor OffspringAdvice to parents about connecting with half-siblings and/or donors:

“Being an only child my whole life and knowing there might be some siblings out there was always in the back of my mind, but I never knew there was a chance to connect with anyone from my father’s side of the DNA strand. Now that I have, it’s a lot like having siblings without the sharing the bathroom and clothes aspect of actually living with them, and I love it. I talk to at least one sibling everyday, there’s just too many to talk to all of them everyday. It’s a good thing. I thought it was cool to meet and have more sisters. My mom didn’t want more than two kids all by herself so this was her way of giving us more. It’s sooo cool!”

“Don’t be nervous, we’re not trying to replace you, we’re trying to find us.”

“I don’t think that children could forget about or have a lesser opinion of their parents after meeting their donor. Kids know that the people who are important in their lives are the people who have always loved them. I think that knowing a donor can only add to the number of loving adults in a child’s life. The donor will never substitute anyone. I feel that by meeting my donor that I have added to the wonderful family that I already have. And the parents will always be there to support the child if meeting the donor was disappointing in some way.”

“There’s nothing to be afraid of! Just because your child has expressed interest in discovering more about themselves doesn’t mean they’ll love you any less. In fact they will most likely be very grateful to you for supporting them in this desire.”

By admin on February 07, 2013

NEW Article, February 2013: NATURE: Genetic privacy needs a more nuanced
approach, Misha Angrist.

Excerpt: “…an article in Science last month raised doubts about the privacy of
volunteers who hand over their genetic data (M. Gymrek et al. Science 339,
321–324; 2013). “Oh my God, we really did this,” said Yaniv Erlich of the
Massachusetts Institute of Technology in Cambridge to The New York Times, after
his group managed to cross-reference information from public databases to put
names to samples of DNA donated to research. One can imagine law enforcement
salivating at the prospect of turning a bloodstain into a name and address.

Yet what the scientists did is not shocking or all that new. The DNA
re-identification bogeyman has lurked at the door for years. The warning signs
were there in 2005 when a precocious 15-year-old boy called Ryan Kramer found
his sperm-donor father. Just as Erlich and his colleagues would do years later,
Kramer used a combination of Y-chromosome data — his own in this case — and
genealogical searching of public records to track down a donor dad who had
almost certainly been promised anonymity by the sperm bank.”

Read the whole story here: